Hi there and thank you in advance for considering helping us with our journey! We are Stefanus (33) and Mitch (31), both born and raised in the Netherlands.
On a beautiful sunny day in May 2013, we met at an event waiting for our newly appointed King and Queen (true story). We had both just signed up for the same local networking club and at the first outing (introducing the royals to our part of our country) we met by chance and talked for hours. We kept in touch and after a couple of months and multiple dates we both knew: we belong together. After being in a stable relationship for more than 10 years now, we are still sharing our passion and dreams with each other. After creating a beautiful life together, our dream is almost reality: we are ready to start building a lovely family of our own. We look forward to raise a child that can make a difference in this world.
Stefanus (brown hair) started working after his studies, in a Dutch tech start-up that grew up to a multinational. He’s a lead in strategy and scaling for more than 10 years now. He also does charity work for a foundation that connects young people with local businesses. In his free time, he enjoys sailing on his boat together with his father.
Mitch (black hair) has been working as an economic advisor for the economic affairs department of his local municipality for 3 years now. He is passionate about helping local entrepreneurs thrive. In his free time, he likes to play classical music (violin) and to bake.
We have been in a relationship for over 10 years and know each other inside and out. We work to life, not the other way around. With our careers and lives stable, we have the time and energy to embark on this amazing journey with you. Our friends and family describe us as energetic, warm, caring and optimistic.
Both of us grew up in a cozy and quiet village with rural surroundings near the big city in Northern Netherlands. Raised in a close family with siblings and then both studied at the local university. We consider ourselves very lucky to live in this area even today with our close family and friends nearby.
After being in a beautiful relationship with each other for more than ten years, we want to make our dream come true to build our family. Due to legal restrictions, it’s nearly impossible to adopt as a same-sex couple in The Netherlands. Therefore we had to look further and consider surrogacy. A same-sex couple we are friendly with, who had a lot of success with their surrogacy journey and now raise two beautiful little boys, opened our eyes to this option. After talking to Sally in spring of 2023, we knew this was our way forward. It took some time to go through the donation phase, since our first donor backed out. But we managed the setback and since winter 2023, we are grateful to have 12 frozen embryos with 8 of them being PGT-A tested.
We live in the beautiful Northern part of the Netherlands, in a village near the biggest city of the area, where we both work. We own a home in a family friendly neighborhood with lots of parks and our family and friends very closeby. Our nephew of almost two (pictured), who we love very much, lives very close by and we get to babysit him regularly and watch him grow up. It would be incredible if we could introduce him to our very own child (because of you!).
For us, the child’s happiness is paramount in this journey. We offer the child a safe and loving environment in which he or she has every opportunity to develop into a wonderful individual and in a warm family and lovely home. The child will hear every day from many around us how much everyone loves him or her. Stefanus likes to refer to what his own grandma told him every day: ‘did someone tell you today how sweet you are and how happy we are that you are here?”. Baking is Mitch’s passion and he cannot wait to bake cookies with our future child. Our nephew is already looking forward to showing the playground to his new family member and all the kids from our friends in the neighborhood are already looking forward to our visit with three instead of two people.
Our shared interests include visiting the theater (music performances, musicals, comedy etc), hiking outdoors, charity work, hosting dinner parties, spending time with friends and family (and family dog Chiara (pictured). We love to travel (together, but also with family) and have been fortunate enough to visit many parts of the world together – we are excited to someday experience our favorite places with our children.
We hope to have a relationship with you that you can feel supported by us in every way possible. As you know, being a surrogate is a monumental decision and we want you to know that we will forever be grateful for the gift you are willing to give us and our family. All costs/expenses that are related to the pregnancy and surrogacy journey will of course be covered by us. But we also hope to make an authentic connection with you; and if you like also with your family. We look forward to get to know you better and add value to your life as well.
We would very much want to physically meet you to develop a bond and trusting relationship. In the meantime, FaceTime-ing or calling are wonderful option to stay in touch. We will do everything that is in our power to develop and maintain a relationship with you and look forward to hearing about your life and getting to know you and your family. After the pregnancy, we would like to continue a type of relationship after the special time in our lives. Perhaps you could visit us sometime to witness in person what a miracle you have given us. We are so grateful to you!
We look forward to hearing from you.