Hi there! We are David and Ammaar, and we have been together for 11 years, married for almost 5 years. We met on an online dating website and have been inseparable ever since! Our first date felt as if time stood still, we talked for hours about our dreams, values, and goals and instantly found that we were clearly meant for one another. We felt it was important to build a strong foundation of our relationship and dated for 6 years before getting married in 2018, solidifying our love for one another in front of our closest family and friends. A moment in time we will never forget!
While we have always wanted children, we never thought that this would be a possibility for us as a same-sex couple. However, we have been fortunate to witness friends embarking on surrogacy journeys, resulting in beautiful families and wonderful relationships with their surrogates. Seeing their journeys gave us hope that we too someday could have children, and we are excited or grateful for this opportunity.
Our Histories
Both of us were born and raised in Canada, although on different ends of the country. David was born in Cole Harbor, Nova Scotia to loving parents, siblings and a large extended family to boot! David could often be found reading books or enjoying walks with his family, something he still loves to do. Ammaar was born in Calgary, Alberta and moved to Ontario when he was in middle school. He was raised alongside his brother and sister, and fostered a close relationship to his mother and late grandmother. Ammaar was also privileged to have lived in Denmark briefly as a child, connecting with his mother’s extended family and developing a love for Danish pastries!
Although we live in Toronto, we visit Nova Scotia often, spending nights at David’s family camp and attending countless holiday dinners and gatherings, ensuring we keep the east coast spirit alive. As Ammaar’s family largely live in Ontario, we routinely visit for fun sleepovers consisting of board games, movies, and cooking delicious meals! We’ve been absolutely fortunate to be surrounded by such loving, caring, and kind families that continue to support and celebrate us. They are extremely excited for us to be taking this journey and we cannot be more thrilled.
Our Passion and Hobbies
From a young age, we have both aspired to live a life where we could help others, impacting the world in our own small but positive way. As such, we were both drawn to the field of healthcare where our daily responsibilities consist of supporting the most vulnerable. Specifically, David is a pediatric cardiac anesthesiologist at a children’s hospital and Ammaar is a clinical psychologist in private practice. Taking care of infants and children has been a rewarding and fulfilling experience for David, and has reaffirmed his desire to be a caring and loving father. For Ammaar, providing psychological treatment and support to people experiencing emotional pain with an emphasis on recognizing strengths and building individual resilience has been a privilege and an honour, and has given him the confidence to better support our future children through whatever struggles they may endure.
You can often find us taking a walk at a local park, reading books, playing video and board games, watching movies, documentaries, and television shows, trying out recipes, skiing during the winter months, and spending time with our friends and family. We especially love to travel, and have been fortunate to visit countries in Europe, North America, and Asia where we have learned about other cultures and met friends we keep till this day. We hope to share our interests with our children, whether it’s hosting a family game night, cooking meals together, going skiing, or even travelling around the globe.
Our Commitment to our Surrogate
We are well aware of not only the financial obligations required to complete a surrogacy journey but also the physical and emotional difficulties that can come with filling such a selfless role. It is incredibly important for us to have our surrogate experience a stress-free journey, which would include us being responsible for any and all financial costs.
We aspire to have a relationship with a surrogate based on mutual respect and open communication. We want to express that the comfort of our surrogate is our utmost priority. We will always be available for support and attending appointments as needed by our surrogate. The sacrifice and fortitude required to be a surrogate is something we do not take for granted, and we will forever be grateful in their efforts to help build our family. Following the birth of our child, we would be thrilled to continue an ongoing relationship with our surrogate based on what feels appropriate for her. However, the type of relationship with the surrogate is something we would defer to the surrogate herself, as it’s important for us to respect her boundaries and wishes.