Questions for Surrogate Mothers

Is Surrogacy For You? Questions for Surrogate Mothers

Health Issues

Are you in good physical health?
Do you have any health issues that might interfere with you successfully (and safely) carrying a baby to term?
Is your reproductive history good?
Is it easy for you to conceive?
Were your previous pregnancies and deliveries without complications?

Support Issues

If you are married, does your partner support you to become a surrogate mother?
If you are not married, do you have a person who will support you during your surrogacy journey?
Do your children, if they are old enough to understand surrogacy, support your decision to become a surrogate mother?
How will you feel if/when your decision to be a surrogate is disapproved by other people?
How will you feel if/when your children are involved in a conflict with people who disapprove of you being a surrogate?

Psychological Issues

Are you confident that you are able to give back a child that you will bear for 9 months?
In traditional surrogacy, you’ll be the genetic mother of the child you carry. Are you confident you could give up a baby genetically linked to you?
Will there be any problems within your marriage or relationship caused by your becoming a surrogate?
Will your close people (family, friends) disapprove of your decision to become a surrogate mother?

Medical Issues

If you will become a gestational surrogate mother, are you ready for the medically invasive procedures, injections and bloodwork?
If you will become a gestational surrogate mother are you prepared to carry multiples? (This is a possibility even with a single embryo transfer).
How would you feel if you have to decrease your activity or go on bedrest due to pregnancy complications?
How will you feel if you’ll no longer be able to have children as a result of the surrogacy?

Sensitive Issues

If the baby you carry has a physical defect, how will you feel about terminating the pregnancy?
If you become pregnant with multiples, how do you feel about selective reduction?
How will you feel if the intended parents become divorced and/or decide to not raise the child?
How will you feel if the intended parents cease all contact with you after your surrogacy journey together?