Canadian Intended Parent Searching for a Gestational Surrogate
Location: Toronto, Ontario
Embryo Status: 6 Frozen PGT Embryos
Occupation: Private Banker
My name is Chris and I'm looking to meet a potential surrogate to help carry my first born.
First I just want to say how appreciative I am for those that make this endeavour possible. Whether you've done this before or this is your first time as a surrogate, I send my absolute gratitude to you for even considering to selflessly help grow families like mine. It's life changing and honestly means the world.
As for myself, I'm a 40 year old single gay man with much family support to help raise a child. While fatherhood has been my dream for more years than I can remember, I feel like I'm finally at the ideal stage in my life to turn that dream into a reality. Over the years I've been fortunate enough to travel extensively around the world, develop many great friendships, work my way up to a comfortable living with my employer and I'm 100% ready to embark on this next chapter.
I've lived in Toronto for over 20 years and currently work as a Private Banker. Once a baby is born, I will be moving back to my hometown of Bowmanville, Ontario where I will have the help of my large family network - parents, step parents, brother, aunts, uncles, etc. As well, I will be taking 18 months off for parental leave to spend as much time as possible with my kid.
My family has always been an essential part of my life and are thrilled at the idea of welcoming a new addition to the family. Even in the tougher times like when my parents separated or when I came out to them, they always set their differences aside and let me know their love was unconditional. Moreover, my father and I are two peas in a pod and I truly consider him my best friend. The deep connection I have with him is certainly one of the main reasons I want to be a father myself. I've been extremely fortunate to grow up in such a supportive household and it means everything to me to be able to pay forward all the love and care I received onto my child.
In terms of my fertility journey, as a gay man, egg donation and surrogacy were always going to be the path forward. I started with an egg donor last year though the results were mixed. More recently I went the frozen egg route and now have 6 frozen PGT embryos. I don't have any previous children and am incredibly excited to move onto the surrogacy stage of the process.
When not focusing on my job or working through the different stages on this pathway to parenthood, I spend most of my downtime with friends. Whether it be going out for a bite to eat, exploring the city, venturing out on a day trip, catching a movie or simply hanging out at home and chatting until the early hours of the morning, I have a close base of friends who are also eagerly awaiting a little one to come along.
My main passions are music and travelling. I love going to concerts, I spend an inordinate amount of time searching for new bands/songs and once in a while try my hand at making my own music (though admittedly I'm not very good haha). Travel wise, I've seen a good amount of North America, Central America, Europe, spent time in Japan, Israel and the Galapagos Islands among other destinations. I just can't get enough of exploring other cultures, landscapes, food, architecture, etc. and making amazing memories.
When it comes to supporting a surrogate, any arrangement that works best for you also works best for me. Communication is key and I want a surrogate to be completely comfortable in letting me know their needs and wishes. I can guarantee you that my family and I will be there to support you and yours in any way needed.
Similarly, as it comes to the type of relationship I would hope to have with a surrogate, I'm happy to respect and adapt to the level of contact you are most comfortable with. Ideally I would love to attend as many prenatal appointments as possible, either in person or via video depending on geography and availability. As well, I would enjoy frequent contact between appointments. That said, you are quite literally making my dream come true so I am more than happy to accommodate your preferences during and after pregnancy.