Canadian Intended Parents Searching for a Gestational Surrogate
Location: Toronto, Ontario
Embryo Status: Frozen PGS Embryos
Occupations: Marketing/Health & Safety
Hi! We are Andrey and Brian. We live in Toronto. Andrey is originally from Russia, and Brian is from the United States. Having children has been a dream of ours since we first met 20 years ago. But the challenges of being a bi-national same-sex couple made it very difficult for us even to be together, much less to create a family. We met when Brian was working in Russia. This was a time when same-sex marriage and immigration rights were still unthinkable. But we were committed to each other and our dream of building a family together.
Our family is Andrey, Brian and our wonderful daughter, who is now four years old. Unfortunately, our relatives all live in other countries, so it' s just the three of us in Toronto. Although the pandemic has been difficult, we actually are grateful that it has given us more time together as a family. We have really enjoyed being present to see our daughter's delightful personality blossom.
It took moving to Canada for our dream to become a real possibility. Since moving to Canada, we have worked towards becoming permanent residents and now citizens. We have also worked at establishing ourselves professionally. But more than our careers, we are motivated by and focused on our family.
Our first journey to become parents with our daughter took over four years. The journey was emotional and difficult, with our hopes dashed more than once. We waited for two years for one surrogate with whom we thought we were a perfect match, only to have her back out at the very last minute by sending us a text message! But, at the end of the day, we were matched with an amazing woman who was a kind, compassionate and wonderful surrogate. We are so grateful for the gift she gave us.
Andrey works in education at a university in Toronto; Brian works in market research. BK - before kid - our hobbies included going to the movies and museums and travelling. AK - after kid - we have become homebodies, especially with the pandemic. We still like watching movies, but now we enjoy revisiting the classics from our childhoods and sharing those movies with our daughter. Andrey is an avid gardener and loves showing our daughter how to get her hands dirty, growing her own fruits and vegetables. We also do a lot of cooking and baking as a family.
Respect for others is a key value for us, and we have tremendous respect for the sacrifice that gestational surrogates make for intended parents. Thank you for your consideration, and thank you for the blessings that you provide people who would otherwise be unable to have children. Based on your comfort level, we want to have a very open relationship with clear communication. At the same time, we want to respect your boundaries. In short, we are willing to be as involved in the emotional side of this journey as you want. We hope that our previous experience with surrogacy will also be a help for you.
We think it's important to be involved in the key milestones during the pregnancy, including attending doctor appointments, ultrasounds and other procedures (as the pandemic allows). We also think it's important to have regular calls during the pregnancy and, when possible, to visit in person (again, as the pandemic allows). After the pregnancy, if it works for the surrogate, we would like to provide regular updates on our child, perhaps a couple times a year, either via e-mail or text.
Andrey & Brian